Preemie Care

18 Feb

Letterbalm Preemie BabyDear LetterBalm: Late last year, our son was born at 30 weeks. He spent two months in the neonatal intensive care unit, and we were very worried because it took a long time for him to grow strong enough to come home. He’s doing well, but he’s still not out of the woods. He’s being carefully monitored with periodic hearing and eye exams and his doctors are watching his lung development. He also has autoimmune issues – colds and flu germs are especially treacherous. Everybody wants to hold him, but we can’t let them yet. How can we tell them without hurting their feelings? Our family and friends have been wonderful, and we want to be with them, just not now.

–New Mom

Congratulations on your new little one. Neonatal care has improved so much in recent years that a new mom and dad can take comfort that their child is on the road to complete health. Ms. L.B. believes you have struck just the right tone already in your letter. If you want, post your child’s progress on Facebook. When you speak with folks, always be calm and upbeat and acknowledge the many kindnesses you and your husband have received. Along these lines:

Matt and I know you can’t wait to hold little Gene and cuddle him. Can you wait a little longer? The little guy has had his health issues, as you know, and his doctors want him to get beyond cold and flu season and some autoimmune concerns before he can join the general population of family and dear ones. He’s still not out of the woods, and he’s still fragile. You have been so wonderful to us, showing so many kindnesses, that Matt and I hope you’ll understand if we ask you to wait a bit longer.


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